Peace Perspective XXXVI: Waiting Dating

It’s been a while since I’ve disagreed, so you’ve got one today. Pinterest is full of inspiration. If you want to be told a certain thing, there’s a pretty quote and picture to fit the bill.

waiting datingWhile this quote may connect with some, I am not one of them. At this point in my life I would rather wait to date someone I can connect with, versus fill time with someone who isn’t right for me. This doesn’t mean I have a super serious checklist and won’t go out until someone has filled all the boxes. In reality there is no checklist. It is more about the feeling. I want to be with someone who makes me feel safe, secure and less stressed.

This also doesn’t mean I’m sitting at home, waiting for things to happen. Instead it means I’m out doing what I want, when I want. Hopefully sometime while I’m out with friends I’ll find the person that is meant to be my more than friend. This also means that I am a huge proponent of “the more the merrier” you never know who might be just around the corner.

Did you find your person by waiting? Or were you a “sample all the flavors” dater? No judgement either way of course!


  1. I didn’t sample. I didn’t wait. It just happened. So naturally and unexpectedlely. I had said no to 11 guys to go on dates before them because it didn’t “feel right,” tony asked and to even my surprise I said “yes!” Very firmly. He made me feel something everytime I was around him. He pursued me the way I had wanted. Your one amazing lady-he’s out there. I know it. Your in a great phase. Very involved in lots of positive wonderful things. Your doing things perfectly.

  2. oh katie, i love your attitude toward dating. i wish i could claim i was as composed as you are, but i took more of a ‘meet every man and then decide’ approach. it kind of backfired though – i ended up liking most of the guys i dated, and then i never knew what to do! i mean, everyone had positives and negatives, so how to pick? eventually, however, i fell in love with this shy guy that i never saw coming…. ❤

    1. Well I think it all ended up just as it was supposed to for you! And I’m hoping that will happen for me, it just takes a little time.

  3. I’m with you 🙂 I do go on quite a few dates, but I do not keep them around if the connection is not there. I’d rather enjoy the things I love doing, explore with friends, than spend time with someone when it is not right.

  4. I definitely am a waiter as well. I feel like “I can do bad all by myself,” and I want to be with someone who adds to my life, not someone who brings drama or makes me feel bad about myself. Who knows if he’s out there, but I hope he is. Until I find him, I’m just enjoying being me, and it’s working well so far 🙂

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