Peace Perspective XIX: Waiting

I was originally going to share a different Peace Perspective. But when I saw this one on the She Reads Truth website, I had to re-write because this quote fit so much better.

She Reads Truth QuoteI don’t talk about my dating life here on the blog much. But with Brunette Anthem‘s recent posts about her Tinder experiences, I decided to take the plunge and share just a little bit.

I’m currently single, I go on dates occasionally, but none of the dates have resulted in a conversation or decision to date exclusively.

Sometimes I get frustrated. I have plenty of friends who are dating, engaged, married, having babies, etc. And I’m not working through that cycle.

But that doesn’t mean I’m wasting time. I’m not sitting around waiting for someone to choose me. I’m doing what I want. Working towards my own goals.

The things I’m working on aren’t distractions and they aren’t single focused. I want to be a triathlete. I am a marathoner, but that race was tough, and I feel that by spending time on 3 sports instead of one I will have a stronger body with less injuries.

Teaching Yoga Sculpt isn’t only about getting paid (actually it has nothing to do about the money) its a place to share a one hour total body and mind workout. I love sharing the practice.

Wine Club isn’t just about the drinking. Its about learning something new, trying new things, and sitting down with people around the community for a couple hours once a month.

Blogging can be a scary thing. I’m sharing my thoughts with people I know, and people I don’t know. And there very possibly are people reading who don’t even like me.

In all of these actions the good outweighs the bad. The same can be said for waiting, the good outweighs the bad. I’m not wasting time, I’m filling my time, with experiences that help me grow as a person.

What are you waiting for? What actions are you taking to prepare yourself?


    1. I can completely understand the “am I wasting my time?” thought process. But I try to always follow it up with the question, “am i having fun, do i feel safe?” if i’m having fun and feel safe, then I decide its not really wasting my time.

  1. It took me a long time to come to terms with the fact that everyone’s dating life is different. Most of my friends from back home are married and I really struggled the last couple years with not being where they are at. It wasn’t until I started seeing results in other areas of my life (grad school, fitness, blogging) that I realized my professional life was blossoming and that is was ok to not have my forever person. Do I get lonely sometimes? Yes. But then I remember that the decisions I make and doing the things I love will eventually lead me to the person I’m supposed to be with and for now, as long as I’m making myself happy I don’t see it as waiting!

    1. Great point! You are so stinking busy as it is! And I totally feel you on the occasionally lonely parts.

  2. i love starting my day with she reads truth! and yes.. this post rings true with me – not about being single, of course, but about my struggle to conceive – which goes to show we’re always waiting on something, right? instead of dwelling, however, i’m using this time to learn to sew and write a book and explore more of this gorgeous city 🙂

    1. Exactly! We are all waiting for something, and we are all waiting for something different. I’m very intrigued about the book you are writing!

  3. I’m pretty much the only one out of all my friends still single and I am totally fine with it. I’m doing a lot to focus on me now and figure out where I want to be and what I want to be doing that being in a relationship right now actually seems like more work than enjoyable. I think once I feel settled and in a good place I’ll be ready, but realized it just isn’t the time and I am happy with that.

    1. “more work than enjoyable” is exactly what I’m trying to avoid! If its not fun, why do it? If it is fun, go on ahead!

  4. Very thought provoking! I’m waiting for life to finally click. I’m trying to have as much fun as possible and limit my negative self-talk in the meantime. Someday!

  5. Love this post. The longer you are single, the more time you have to cultivate who you really are. I believe that things happen the way they are supposed to and the right person will come into our life at the right time. We might deal with a lot of ‘wrong’ people first, but that too teaches us about others and ourselves. No rush. Enjoy life as it is.

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